Ladies, this one is for you. My friend Sheila used to tell me I should host a television series called The Boyfriend Show. Because every time she had boy problems she would call me. And Sheila wasn’t the only one! A couple years passed and more and more of my friends tied the knot. I guess you could say the boy problems turned into husband problems. Now once a woman is married I’m very cautious about how wide I keep the door open. Ultimately it’s best for all of us to communicate directly with the person we’re trying to create a healthy, loving relationship with. Still, from time to time I take a call. There’s two key points I’ve summarized from what feels like 1,000’s of mock counselor sessions.
First and foremost, make the right choice. This is why I can’t stress enough the importance of waiting. Live your life. Get to know yourself. Understand who you are and what you want. Then, it’ll be much easier to navigate through the pile of potentials and invest wisely in the one who’s walking in the same direction as you.
Secondly, when making that choice choose a man who makes you feel calm. Yes, calm. That doesn’t mean you can’t have butterflies when you meet him for dinner or hear his voice on the phone. But when you sit across from him and look into his eyes, he should make you feel calm. He doesn’t always have to agree. He certainly doesn’t have to be your best girlfriend. After all, you chose a man. But he should listen and respond openly and I’d say, 85 to 95% of the time be resonating with a calm peaceful energy filled with grace and compassion. If not, then you probably didn’t make the right choice. And now, you’re faced with the aftermath.
For the men reading, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Have you ever looked at it from this perspective? It resonates with the GMB Code.
Peace and punches!
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