And he says to his girlfriend, “Do it like I fucking told you.” The hair on the back of my neck stood up. My heart quickly accelerated. I could feel the adrenaline dump. She wasn’t in immediate danger, but her head dropped. The shame made me cringe!
Possessing the ability to steer a conversation away from conflict is perhaps one of the greatest forms of defense. For the majority of us, it's our mouth that gets us into trouble. And that happens when our mind overrides our spirit. Our spirit is alive and present completely submerged in the now.
In 2004, 30 Islamic terrorists, mostly Ingush and Chechen, took over 1100 people hostage (including 777 children) inside a Beslan School. Their intent was to negotiate the removal of Russian soldiers from their native country of Chechnya. Similarly to the American governments policy, Russia doesn’t negotiate with terrorists. After fifty hours of stalemate, an explosion erupted into a battle that resulted in the death of 330 hostages, 186 of which were children.
Nowadays we compartmentalize everything in hopes to find our audience, build a brand, and increase our revenue. You'll see public speakers on motivation, real estate, finance, and even self-defense. It makes good business sense, but that doesn’t always carry over to these so-called experts’ personal lives.
In life and death encounters sometimes it’s necessary to play prey. I know, it goes against almost all modern day self defense concepts. They teach us to walk tall, know where we’re going, use a loud voice when verbally confronting an on-coming attacker, to strike as the first line of defense. And in many cases they’re right! But there’s a line between pre-contact and contact that must be drawn.
The enigma of hand-to-hand combat is that through the study of destruction man can find the bedrock of peace. This concept was first introduced to me by Paul Vunak, legend and forefather of Contemporary Jeet Kune Do. A name he says no one should “fuss” over. Peace through violence, such a strange proposition.