An old friend of mine spent two years of his life decimating his sexual health. At least that’s what I call it. It’s similar to mental and physical health, only encompasses our sexual components. He created a profile on as many dating/hook-up sites he could find.
The truth is ugly! And for years I’ve been guilty of keeping it that way. I used to say I was just being ‘honest’ or ‘blunt’. But my words lacked the key ingredient to making sure what I said was heard.
And he says to his girlfriend, “Do it like I fucking told you.” The hair on the back of my neck stood up. My heart quickly accelerated. I could feel the adrenaline dump. She wasn’t in immediate danger, but her head dropped. The shame made me cringe!
I was recently talking shop with the Fight Professor, Stephen Quadros, original host for the Pride Fighting Championships along side Bas Rutten. We met in 2012 rotating rounds on a single heavy bag inside Crunch Gym – Burbank. He’s a walking, talking fight encyclopedia! While I heard about the origination of UFC training under Paul Vunak, Stephen was actually there.
Arguments. They’re bound to happen. And unfortunately the majority of them are with people we care about. I used to think the most important thing was to win. But the superficial triumph faded quickly and what remained didn’t positively resonate with my core. After a decade of failed attempts to win I finally came to the conclusion that it's better not to. Stay with me.